As told in my previous post, I am sharing with you what I had observed.
Most of the days I go to pick up our granddaughter from her school bus stop. Once I got a little late, though was in time to reach there but the bus had come early that day and she was standing at the exit door crying. Since then I give more allowance of time. It is not far but I still take the car as she feels happy. I normally park the car and wait outside. During this time I observe what goes on around. I have come to know how many school buses, with school names, go in the opposite directions or come in the same direction before her bus comes. I know which bus children of our housing complex get down from. Most of the young ones call me DADU as our granddaughter calls me and elder ones call me uncle, as the norm is. A bus of well known school comes in the same direction almost 10 minutes before her bus. Two girls get down, one of them, say A, is from our complex while other one seems to be her classmate and takes a rickshaw to go home from there. A always stopped to say hello to me as we have a good rapport and I know her parents well.
Since beginning of this month I observed a young boy reached there around the same time as their bus arrived and waited under a tree a little distance away after parking his motorcycle nearby. The girl who comes with A used to say bye to her and go over to the boy. A as usual stopped to speak to me. That boy and girl used to be there when I left with our granddaughter. They though did not indulge in much PDA but it was quite evident that they were going strong in relationship. This was daily routine.
This went on for about a fortnight but then I saw that boy saying something which the girl used to nod her head in disagreement and the boy showed as if he was annoyed pretending to walk off. She used to then hold his hand to make him stay back while said something to please him. On last Monday that boy was not there when the girl arrived. She looked towards that tree and went over. A accompanied her and waited for a while. This girl started crying as it became evident that boy was not likely to come. A tried to console her and later put her in a rickshaw before going home. The same thing happened for the next couple of days and that girl kept crying mostly. On Thursday when A stopped to talk to me, I asked her as to what was the problem with that girl. A told me that the boy who used to come was her boyfriend and it seemed that he had broken off with her. On my asking she told me that he was in their school but a year senior. He had appeared for 12th board examinations and was waiting for results. He used to come in the same bus and they used to share seat till he got down a couple of stops earlier. Since reopening of school, he started coming to this stop to meet her. Since I shared a good rapport with A, I told her that I hoped he had not taken advantage of that girl. A told me she would check on that. That day I told in my previous post that I would share an observation with you all.
On Friday she told me that what I suspected was likely to be true as her friend had visited his house on previous weekend because the boy had insisted a lot threatening to break off and he was alone at home.
I really feel so sad for that young girl who has been carried away with her feelings and is now in such a state. This is why I always advocate that it is very important for parents to share friendly relationship with grown up children to inculcate confidence in them to share what goes on in their mind. Parents should be able to guide children as to how to take care of self using language as appropriate to their age. I sincerely wish to speak to that girl and advise that the boy is not worth her as he only lusted after her. I wish to tell her to get over what happened and learn lesson for future. This is the time she needs support lest she takes some drastic step. But I do not think I will as I do not know the girl. I do offer my help to those I know but I never want to impose myself on anyone. However I have requested A to be of support to her and see that she does not take any harmful step.