Wednesday, January 30, 2013


Does the following letter remind you of any time you may have had similar thoughts?

“ Dear God,

I am sure that you know I am writing this to you. It is known that you exist in many forms and have many names but I think basically you are ONE who runs the whole world. Some persons do not believe you exist but when they are in deep trouble most of them do utter your name in one way or the other. You are aware of all that goes on. It is said that you know what is best for everyone but how come that you deny basic happiness to someone though it is good for one? You are said to test each of us by making us go through some rough time but I am sure you also know how far can one take that stress and when it goes beyond how come you do not send any relief? We know that our actions are controlled by you and it is said that we are penalized for our sins by making us go through tough times but why so as those actions of sin are also scripted by you, isn’t it? Come on God, I know you are smiling at my ignorance but don’t you think that we the puppets in your hands wonder at times as to why does one go through rough times? I know that you reside in heart of everyone of us and then you must be aware of our heartfelt wishes. Then how come you ignore sincere prayers from heart for some happiness? I know you may be very busy in your work but you also have superpowers, so please do listen to someone who is at wits end and may be he or she is keen to be recalled.

Waiting for your mercy,

Your follower ”    

Thursday, January 17, 2013


Once again I am sharing what I read for your views.

"At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
 Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.
 The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but landed on another lady in the group.
 Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.
 The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.
 When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
  Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?
 If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
 He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
 It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
 I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
 It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
 More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.
 Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood I should not react in life. I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded."

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of, just and right to save a situation from going out of hand, to avoid cracks in relationship, to avoid taking decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or hurry.

Life is too short to be engrossed in hatred and enmity.  “Be nice and smile to everyone you meet. You don't know what they are going through, and they may need that smile. And treasure it.”

Thursday, January 10, 2013


Last year in July I had shared with you about an elderly man missing his grandson as his d i l had gone to her parents place with her son. I had been meeting him off and on but not very regularly as he had become little infrequent to visit park when children are at play.

A couple of days ago I met him while returning from market. We stopped to talk to each other for a while. He looked very depressed and his concentration was straying. I learnt that his grandson had still not come back as his d i l was still not willing to return. He confided that it was basically due to her father’s interference. He had tried to speak to him on this issue but was spoken to very arrogantly by her father that till his son shows some improvement she would not return. He told that he felt sad to see his son leading this kind of lonely life and also that he missed his grandson a lot. I was alarmed when he absently added that he was even contemplating putting an end to his life while blaming her and her father for his action.  This shook me up and I felt that it was time that he was told as to what his action may lead to for others. I invited him for a cup of tea. He was hesitant but I insisted and brought him home.

I then spoke to him about his absent minded utterance and he confirmed that this had crossed his mind several times as he felt so sad without his grandson with him. I told him that had he realized that by this action he would be putting his grandson’s entire life into jeopardy. He was surprised and asked me as to how could that be. So I had to tell him the hard facts. I told him that he would get over all what he is going through but did he imagine if his son would ever forgive his wife or her father for this. Where would that leave his grandson? His d i l and her father would be tied up in court case and would they not take out their anger on that little boy? Even if did not blame them in his suicide note, still his son would not accept his wife back as in his heart he would know the reason for this act. So his grandson would still be at the mercy of his d i l and he father. He was astonished that he did not think in this way. I told him that when one is in depressed state of mind his or her thinking gets narrow. I then requested him to take up some hobby which consumes time. I also asked him to join me for morning walks and in park during evening time. He agreed to this and told me that he used to read a lot but had almost given up. He added that he would try to keep busy by reading as much as he could.  Since that day I have been meeting him regularly and found to my satisfaction that he seemed to have overcome that feeling.

This set me thinking that when one contemplates such drastic action does he or she even think beyond self escape from problem and what legacy will be left behind. Also why should such a situation ever arise? Don’t near & dear ones make out that the person is in such a depressed state of mind and take remedial steps? Is EGO of anyone more important that healthy relationship and life of someone so close?

Thursday, January 3, 2013


I am sharing a poem with you all. How I wish I knew the one who composed this as I would like to bow to him or her and kiss his or her hand for such a heart touching poem :

To My Unknown Daughter

She died yesterday in a land far away,
From the rapacious wolves: a fatally wounded prey.
Animals with no love, shame or pity,
Just claws of lust and fangs of fury.
She died yesterday in an antiseptic city.
Whilst our celebrities mouthed inanities.
They termed her a brave-heart, India’s daughter,
Knowing their own was safe, in a secured quarter.
She died yesterday and she died today.
She will die again tomorrow and every day.
Because that’s her fate and that’s our will.
Nothing ever changes here and nothing ever will.
So sleep my dear girl, sleep the sleep of the just.
Sleep in a place better than the one you were born in.
And while you are asleep, dream a better dream,
Than the one that was so brutally torn.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013



May you all have a VERY SAFE and Happy 2013.