Once again I am
sharing what I read for your views.
"At a
restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She
started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice,
she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the
cockroach.
Her reaction
was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.
The lady
finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in
the group.
Now, it was
the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.
The waiter
rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next
fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the
behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was
confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the
restaurant.
Sipping
my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few
thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their
histrionic behavior?
If so, then
why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it
near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the
cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by
the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized
that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs
me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting
that disturbs me.
It's not the
traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the
disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the
problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.
Lessons
learnt from the story:
I understood I
should not react in life. I should always respond.
The women reacted,
whereas the waiter responded."
Reactions are
always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of, just and right
to save a situation from going out of hand, to avoid cracks in relationship, to
avoid taking decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or hurry.
Life is too short
to be engrossed in hatred and enmity. “Be nice and smile to everyone
you meet. You don't know what they are going through, and they may need that
smile. And treasure it.”
39 comments:
It is true, being calm is always better than being all agitated, it not only creates problems for others but it creates problems for us too.
That is why people are these days prone to high BP, heart attacks etc.
Ignoring things that are part and parcel of life is not the solution, but taking the right action at the right moment is the trick.
But do we have the patience and the time to implement them, of course no.
Absolutely correct and very good analogy....though, I must confess that I hate cockroaches myself!! :D
true!
Very thoughtful uncle.. But i think.. this art of responding rather than reacting to a situations comes with experience and how a person is willing to change their life to better.. so, once more, I've learnt that we must respond, not react to be happy :)
Profound observations from a simple incident. True, choosing whether we react or respond can have a dramatic effect on how our day, or life for that matter, unfolds!
well thought of! it is very true...responses are what we need rather than reactions!
its alright but to mind the restaurant was so filthy.. ..(It should be sued)
reacting and responding comes with experience and maturity ..my kids in US start crying over a small fly .. wht if they see a cockroach? which is hardly seen here or a lizard on wall ??
But these are creepy things anyone wud blow out :)
you were smiling because you have faced bigger situations .. in life .. its always with aGE :)
The situation looked funny upon reading but what you have said is true, it is our inability indeed :D
Brilliant! So true.
Sounds funny, but I know its irritating.
Well said! Must of us choose to react rather than respond.
I had posted the same article few days back in my blog. This is truly inspiring. Now whenever, I am about to react, I think of this story and try to focus on responding than reacting.
Thanks for reminding this again!
Regards,
Gayu
पूर्णत: आपसे सहमत हूँ.
RAMA :
Thanks a lot for giving such insight into what I tried to convey. One has to take life as it comes without reacting in panic. Take care
ROSHNI :
Thanks for such supportive view. Who likes cockroaches? Take care
SAKSHI :
Thanks for supourt. Take care
ANN :
One should start trying this as soon as one can. I am sure you will always find happiness. Take care
SHILPA :
Thanks for such supportive view with convincing language. Take care
AMRITA :
Your support makes me feel so happy. Take care
HARMAN :
I agree that any restaurant which has insects is filthy. However this was just to bring out difference between reaction and response. Take care
BHAGYASHREE :
At times funny situations convey such factual statements. Take care
TAYLA :
Welcome to my space. Hope to have your valuable views in future also. Take care
SHREYA :
Funny it may be but the message is so true. Take care
PURBA :
That is why so many relationships face difficulty. Take care
GAYU :
That is why you responded by saying what you said and not suing me as reaction. Ha ha. Take care
AMRITA :
AAPKE SAMARTHAN KAA BAHUT DHANYAAVAAD. Take care
That is a very important life lessin.
Most of the times we get our emotions involved. But not getting them involved is also a herculean task.
:)
Hi Jack!
This time I will make an exception and won't simply cruise by. I'm stopping to tell you that I liked this post so much and the beautiful insight you have shared. You have read my thoughts on the subject and expressed it beautifully in your own inimitable writing style and wisdom.
Thanks for this pleasure. Blessings to you and your loved ones.
Wow....I cam back to this space after a long time...but what a simple post with a great message!
You truly responded fantastically to the situation Uncle J. B'ful observation:)
KSHIPRA :
I know it is difficult but it is not impossible. Take care
ELLEN :
Thanks for such supporting view. I am so happy to see you here. Take care
JIGYASA :
I am so glad to see you here. Thanks for such supportive views. Take care
inertia. anything that succesfully changes it is called a force.
anything that doesnt is probably just effort.
so the question in the end is, how do you balance the counter force so its merely an effort?
be a wall i say.
Smiles :)
I have to laugh but it is so true :) your posts are always interesting to read and make me think
RAJ :
Very appropriate simile. Thanks for valuable views. Take care
JYOTI :
Thanks for appreciation. Take care
SABI :
It is funny but has a good lesson too. Thanks for your such appreciative views. Take care
So true..
Dear Sir, I liked your post very much. The difference between 'reacting' and responding' is a real insight.
I am a retired banker-turned-full time gardener. I read your comments on Bubblegum's posts and like them very much.
The Gardener
I liked your post very much. The difference between 'reacting' and 'responding' is really an insight.
I am a retired banker-cum-full time gardener. I regularly read your comments on Bubblegum's posts and like them very much.
ZEBA :
Welcome to my space. Thanks for such supportive view. Hope to have your valuable views in future also. I will visit you a s a p. Take care
THE GARDENER :
It is my pleasure to have you here. Kindly do give your valuable views in future also. She is very well balanced girl and writes well deserving praise. I will visit you a s a p. Take care
beautifully written,excellent SIR,.. you are such a highly talented person indeed you are BLESSED with some amazing writing skills.,
S L :
Welcome to my space. I am at loss of words to say anything about such praise showered. Hope to have your valuable views on my humble efforts.
Take care
thanks for replying. You are blog is really excellent. You are a GENIUS. be happy keep smiling.
it gives positive insights.
you know Uncle ,i alwayd in a great need.
S L :
I make it a point to reply to everyone who takes time to give views on my writings. Thanks a lot for your support which will make me strive to make my posts more meaningful. Please do let me know of your url so I can visit your space too. Take care
AROOJ :
We do need to keep positive attitude which at times is very difficult but we need to try. Do share what you are facing and let me see if I can be of any support to you. Take care
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what a fantastic story! I totally agree. Just never realized that I was ground zero!
S L :
Thanks, I will visit you soon. Take care
SARO :
I am so glad that you found it good. Why do you say that you were ground zero? Take care
Wonderful story to explain the importance of response as opposed to reaction!
OLDFOX :
Thanks for such supportive view. Yes, one needs to respond to a situation and not just react. Take care
DR PURUSHOTHAMAN :
Welcome to my space. Sorry for late reply as I have not been keeping well. I will visit you as soon as I can. Take care
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