Saturday, September 17, 2016

RESPONSIBILITY OF SOCIETY

I felt so sad to read in today’s newspaper about a 30 years old specialist doctor working in AIIMS having committed suicide. My heart goes out to her 2 years old daughter. As per newspapers her in laws and husband used to harass her. Instead of feeling proud of having a daughter in law who is so qualified and working for well being of people, they used to blame her for neglecting household work due to her busy schedule. I know the in laws will blame her of being quarrelsome but if it was so, would she have committed suicide considering her being so qualified and intelligent? It is said that in laws, who had taken her daughter away, did not let her meet her for a couple of months. One cannot bring her back to life but should now see that her so young daughter is brought up with love and affection. I feel some reputed NGO, if not government itself, should monitor her bringing up. 

Thursday, September 8, 2016

WHY TARGET THE POOR ONLY?

Yesterday I saw in TV news workers of MNS in Mumbai upturning hand cart of a poor fruit seller thus throwing all fruit on road as he was non-maharashtrian. This makes me wonder if they want or their leader wants all non-maharashtrian to leave Mumbai then why target only poor. Why does he not speak against those who are rich, like people of film industry? Why does not he ask famous film stars most of whom are non-maharashtrian to leave Mumbai? Or the rich industrialists? Come to think of it, it is said that even he is from a non-maharashtrian family who migrated from Bihar to Bombay a couple of generations ago.

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

SOME REFLECTIONS

Well, on turning 71 I spent some time to reflect on times gone by. 

I am living in a rented accommodation with wife. Our both children are away. Daughter is married and living separately with her children and her husband is posted to another town. Son with his wife & children is in Canada for the last over 2 1/2 years. So we two take care of each other. By God's grace I earn reasonable sufficient pension to look after ourselves at the fag end of life. People do wonder as to how come I did not make a house for ourselves. I did make one but sold it off to take care of more important needs of our children.Now we do not wish to intrude into their life. But I do feel that having own accommodation does make a lot of difference as you do not have to run around to find another house for rent once lease for current one is getting over. We could check into some decent Old Age Home but we can not at present as we have a 10 1/2 years old dog. She needs a lot of care & love. We do not wish to abandon her. Also I am not sure about standards of such Homes. I have lived a decent life, earned respect of people who I came in contact. Even today if I meet anyone from my organisation, I get a lot of attention and respect. Still I feel that own accommodation as well as some regular source of income is a must for old age as we should not have any expectations from our children.


So my advice at this age to you who are still young is that do take care of your children, give them the BEST but at the same time CATER for your old age also.

Saturday, August 27, 2016

PUNISH THE PERSONS RESPONSIBLE OF TRAGEDY

My heart goes out to those two young boys of around 10 years of age who are critically injured after falling down while participating in DAHI HANDI celebrations in Mumbai. As per reports they fell down from 6th tier of HUMAN PYRAMID. Sixth tier of human pyramid would roughly mean more than 25 feet high, taking into account that each person forming such pyramid is around 5 feet or so of height. DON'T YOU THINK THAT THIS TRAGEDY COULD HAVE BEEN AVOIDED IF THEY HAD FOLLOWED HON'BLE SUPREME COURT ORDERS? The apex court had given these orders after giving due thought and the Hon'ble judges are not meddling into any tradition but just laying down some limitations to avoid HUMAN TRAGEDY which occurred due to some political interference.

I strongly feel that the persons responsible for encouraging deliberate disobedience of orders of Hon'bl Supreme Court leading to such young boys getting critically injured should be arrested and tried under relevant sections of Cr P C / IPC.

Sunday, August 7, 2016

Some Thoughts

I have been thinking of writing for a long time now and today I decided that one needs to put thinking into action. So here I am with random thoughts.

Today I heard in news that in a school in UP singing of National Anthem was disallowed by the management on pretext that certain word in that are not allowed in Islam. I wonder since when we Indians have started linking National Anthem to religion. I would like that wise gentleman to tell me do non-muslims of Muslim countries have any option on respective National Anthems?

Another thing which has been bugging me is – Does our Government want Defence Forces to go on strike like any other services? Even State Police Services had gone on strike some times. Why I am asking this is as number of ex as well as serving Defence Persons who live in my area and we do meet off & on while on walk or in market, have been telling that they always get stepmotherly treatment from Government. They say that in case of national emergencies Armed Forces get called without second thoughts but when it comes to give some well earned increase in salaries they are the last to be thought of. I was given two recent examples – first being that Hon’ble Supreme Court had in a judgement reduced qualifying service for earning full pension from 33 years to 20 years. Orders for the same have been issued for civil services while for Defence Services it is still under consideration; Second being letter for giving affect to increase in pay etc as per recent Pay Commission has already been issued for civil services while once again for Defence Services it is still not issued. I know Veterans had gone on agitation demanding OROP which was promise about two decades earlier but each Government kept dilly dallying on implantation. The present Government finally issued letter for that though, as felt by Defence Persons, in a diluted form. I shudder to think about consequences of strike by Defence Forces.


I fully agree with our respected Prime Minister about those who call themselves as saviours of cows. I am all for protection of cows and peacocks, our national bird, but who takes care of them in old age?  Why should they take law in their hands? If they find cows being taken for killing for beef, they should just stop the vehicle and call for police. 

Friday, July 15, 2016

DOUBLE STANDARDS

Have you ever given a thought as to do you have double standards? Most of us will say NO and we do not have double standards. Is it true? No, not in my opinion.

We, almost all, will ogle at a woman in skimpy & revealing dress. We may not pass comments but will in our hearts enjoy what we look at. Don't we abuse or fight with those who look similarly at our close relative dressed like that?

Most of us will praise media for giving in depth news about any rape case but God forbid, if victim happens to be someone close to us don't we criticise media of unwanted meddling?

Most of us will condemn those mistreating daughter in law but at home how many of us follow what we preach?

Do give it a honest thought.

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

LIFE OF ELDERLY COUPLES

Well, my friends I am not yet dead but ideas which kept cropping up for writing died very young. So my absence from here for over 2 months. Today I decided to write whatever comes in my mind while I am here.

As told in my previous post, we - self & wife, are living alone for the past 2½ years as our children are married and settled in their own lives. Though our daughter stays in the same city but in a different area, we do not wish to burden her. We do meet once in two or three weeks. Her children, studying in 9th and 5th, spend a couple of days with us depending upon their school / studies schedule. Our son is in Canada with his family. So I think it does qualify me to speak about life of couples staying alone, by choice or otherwise.

We do find a lot of time at our hands. She watches TV when she is not busy in kitchen or some other chore. She found channel Zindagi interesting. I take up outside chores. Our dog also takes part of my time - taking her for walks, feeding her or grooming her. Once a week I give her bath. She is over 10 years old, so technically she is the eldest in the house as their one year of life is equal to human 7.52 years or so. I still find a lot of time at hand. So apart from reading, I also watch news and 4 serials on TV.

My experience of TV is not a happy one. There are such glaring discrepancies in story line of serials that one wonders if producers take viewers to be fools. Also the serials drag on and on and on by some way or the other. It seems that the aim is to reach at least a thousand episodes. Thus it becomes so dull once the main point for which the serial started is over and then dragging starts. That is why my wife finds Zindagi better as serials stick to one story line for which started and finish as soon as that point is over. No serial exceeds maximum of 50 episodes or so.

Apart from that most of the shows on TV are not hearing impaired friendly. I am hard of hearing and use hearing aids. News channels are fine as pop ups in writing are also there alongwith news reading and there is no background music. In case of serials one has to hear the dialogues to follow the story. So if I raise the volume to suit my need, even with hearing aid, it does not help as the background music is so loud and jarring that it drowns what those artistes are speaking. Enough of my laments.


Coming to the elderly couples living alone, we find a lot of time at our hands inspite of engaging is some activity or the other, even social service as once day is over at night one is at ownself. No matter how brave a front we elderly couples put up it is a fact that we do miss our grandchildren, if not children.