PEPPED UP

I am thankful to all of you for wishing me to come out of the state I was in. Well, it is still there but in a way it proved to be a blessing in disguise for me. I had been delaying my medical checkup for little too long. The tension made me feel a bit out of form so I have undergone total medical checkup. This included ECG, ECHO, TMT, BP monitoring, Urine test and all kinds of Blood tests. All that specialist told me is I am fine and it is only some tension which is making me feel low. Physical fitness is first requirement to meet all challenges. So now I will strive for mental or emotional happiness by concentrating on cause of tension to remove that forever. Please pray for me.

TESTS BY LIFE

Life has own way of shaking one up from complacency and at times it makes one feel enough is enough to give up. I am going through a little rough patch and read some sayings which pepped me up. Here are some of those :  

Never hold your head high with  ego. 
Even the winner of a gold medal gets his medal only when he bows his head down 

Do not  try to maintain relations in your life 
Just try to maintain life in your relations 

 We are very good Lawyers for our mistakes 
Very good Judge for other's mistakes 

World always say - Find good people and leave bad ones. 
But I say, Find the good in people and ignore the bad in them 
Because No one is born perfect 

Negative Thinkers focus on Problems 

Positive thinkers focus on Solutions 

WHY DO WE COMPLICATE LIFE?

At times I used to meet a gentleman of about my age when I played escort to our granddaughter for her visits to play in our park. He used to be with his grandson of little elder to our granddaughter. While keeping eye on our wards we used to get chatting. We also meet otherwise at times in the complex while on way to market or some such time. He is also retired like me. We do get along well. His wife is quite friendly with my wife. They have two children like us. Younger is daughter who is married and settled abroad with her husband plus two children. They stay with son, dil and their son whom he comes with to the park. Last 10 days or so I saw him alone in the evening in the park. He talks to and enjoys company of small children. On my asking as to where was his grandson, he told me that their dil and grandson had gone to her parents place for a few days. He added that as he misses him, he comes down in the evenings to enjoy company of children. It was yesterday that I noticed his eyes being moist when our granddaughter asked him as to when his grandson was coming back. On my prodding him, he narrated whole thing. I am giving it in his words.

We had given full liberty to our son to choose his life partner but he left it to us with condition that first our daughter should be married off. Two years after her marriage he was also married to girl we found but he met and accepted. We had told the girl that we would like her as a family member.  We told her parents also the same and that we have no demands at all. Everything was fine for few months after marriage except usual little disagreements between them.

One day when I came back from office I learnt that after little argument with our son she had packed her bags and left for her parent’s house. On my asking our son told that she was insisting that they should stay independently and he reminded her that she had agreed to his saying that we all will be staying together. Her father at times had made veiled suggestions that they be allowed to stay separately. I told our son that if that makes his life peaceful, they might as well stay independently. He refused.

 After a few days one evening he came home very agitated. While I asked him the reason, he told that he had just learnt that she had an affair with someone for 4 years before marriage and was still keeping in touch with him. I asked him not to believe such rumours but he told that on asking she had confirmed that saying that her father did not want her to marry that boy. I asked him to cool off. Next day I visited her parent’s place and met her. Her parents were at work. I had a frank talk with her. I told her that if she was not happy with our son or us, she is welcome to settle down with whomsoever she wishes to. She also was frank to tell me that though she has had a boyfriend but was not at all keen to break up marriage. I ever offered that they may stay independently. She said no to that. She returned home after two days or so.

It was quite peaceful after that except that she wanted to be in control of everything. We for the sake of peace played along. They were blessed with son a year later. Now she has again suddenly gone off to her parents place with her son saying that our son has very casual attitude and she does not have sense of basic security for self as well as her son. Our son had spoken to her after that and told her that he would make efforts to be more dependable in every way but she refused to return. Our son does not wish us to speak to her or her parents as he feels that she will become more dominant if we do that. She is still there and our son had told her to come back whenever she wishes to. He does not want to keep asking her to return.

This has set me thinking that how ego, urge to dominate and disinterested attitude of parents can make life of so many persons including the young boy unhappy.    

SOME HUMOUR

A friend of mine shared these three stories with me which I felt that after some serious posts, I must share these with you for a laugh.

MEXICAN MAID

The Mexican maid asked for a pay increase. 
The wife was very upset about this and decided to
talk to her about the raise.
She asked: 
"Now Maria, why do you want a pay increase?"
Maria: 
"Well,Señora, there are tree reasons why I wanna increaze."
"The first is that I iron better than you.
Wife: "Who said you iron better than me?"
Maria: "Jor huzban he say so."
Wife: "Oh yeah?"
Maria: "The second reason eez that
I am a better cook than you."
Wife: "Nonsense,
who said you were a better cook than me?"
Maria: "Jor hozban did."
Wife increasingly agitated:
"Oh he did did he???"
Maria: "The third reason is that
I am better at sex than you in the bed."
Wife, really boiling now and through gritted teeth.
"And did my husband say that as well?"
Maria: "No Señora......."
"The gardener did."
Wife: "So how much do you want?"

Two Woodpeckers

A Canadian woodpecker had migrated to Mexico for the winter and
happened upon a Mexican woodpecker.  Soon they were arguing about
which country had the toughest trees. The Mexican woodpecker claimed
Mexico had a tree that no woodpecker could peck.

The Canadian woodpecker accepted his challenge and promptly pecked a
hole in the tree with no problem.  He then continued to peck out a
complete statue of a man waving.  The Mexican woodpecker was amazed.

The Canadian woodpecker then challenged the Mexican woodpecker to
Summer in Canada and peck a tree in Canada that was absolutely
'impeccable' (a term frequently used by woodpeckers).  The Mexican
woodpecker expressed confidence that he could do it and accepted the
challenge.

The two of them flew to Canada where the Mexican woodpecker
successfully pecked a beautifully carved cameo in the so-called
'impeccable' tree almost without breaking a sweat...

Both woodpeckers were now terribly confused. How is it that the
Canadian woodpecker was able to peck the Mexican tree, and the
Mexican woodpecker was able to peck the Canadian tree, yet neither
was able to peck the tree in their own country?

After much woodpecker pondering, they both came to the same conclusion:
"Your pecker gets harder when you're away from home."

A true story, you gotta love him...

One day, shortly after joining the PGA tour in 1965, Lee Trevino, a
professional golfer and married man,was at his home in Dallas,Texas
mowing his front lawn, as he always did.
A lady driving by in a big, shiny Cadillac stopped in front of his
house, lowered the window and asked, " Excuse me, do you speak English
?"

Lee responded, " Yes Ma'am, I do "

The lady then asked, " What do you charge to do yard work? "

Lee said, " Well, the lady in this house lets me sleep with her ".

The lady hurriedly put the car into gear and sped off.

FOLLOW UP ON PREVIOUS POSTS

I feel that I should give follow up on my post Disgusting. Before I go on that may I say something on my previous post KAHAANI GHAR GHAR KI?

The tussle between MILs and DILs has been going on since times immemorial. Unfortunately most of those involved do not understand basic remedy. I am giving that which I had told in my post Happy Married Life spread in 3 parts written in Oct – Nov 2009 :

In laws should treat their daughter in law just as they would like to see their daughter treated in her in laws house.

                                And

Daughter in law should behave in her in laws house the way she would like to see wife of her brother do in her parent’s house.

Would that not make life simpler and happier?

Now coming to RS. We had put that plan in action within a couple of days after it was discussed. His daughter complained a few times about being groped in crowded buses or metro in his presence. She acted very hurt and shed few tears also at times. As per her he had been very quiet. Her mother had been telling her to retaliate is such situations by slapping the culprit. Last Sunday she called me up and asked me to come to their house next day as she was going to say something which should make an impact on her father. She discussed it with me and we refined it more. Her brother was also expected to be home as it was off that day for his business.

As planned I reached his house around 6 in the evening. We were just chatting when his daughter arrived in a very furious mood. She said in front of all of us that she was groped while coming in a crowded bus. Her mother said as to why did she not give a slap to that stupid person. Her brother to said same adding if she points out that person he would bash him up. That is when she said, “ I turned around to give a slap to that person and shout so others can beat him but when I saw him I was stunned. He was of Papa’s age and looked very respectable just like him. Thought crossed my mind that if I expose him how would he face everyone who respects him like an elder person.  Or even his own family. So I just gave him a dirty look telling Uncle save this for your daughter and moved away.”  I told his daughter that she should not have spared that person as he deserved to be exposed for his such deplorable act. I added that her father would never even think of doing anything like that as he is so pious and God fearing. As planned I was looking at RS’s face during all this to gauge his reaction. He was swallowing hard and had turned little pale. He also appeared to be in deep thoughts.

We now sincerely hope that he would desist from his disgusting habit.