Friday, November 16, 2012

HOW TO HAVE PEACEFUL LIFE


This one tells so well that it is upto us how we make our life peaceful.

When someone does something or is about to do something, in a way we don’t want it to be done, and we are not able to accept it - we become angry. However, when someone does something or is about to do something, in a way we don’t want it to be done - but we are able to accept it - we remain tolerant.

When someone has something which we don’t have, or someone is able to produce results which we are capable to produce - and we are not able to accept it - we become jealous. When someone has something which we don’t have, or someone is able to produce results which we are capable to produce and we are able to accept it - we get inspired

When someone is present in our thoughts, but not physically present and we are not able to accept it - we say "I am missing you". When someone is present in our thoughts, but not physically present and we are able to accept it - we say "I am thinking of you".

The emotional equation is quite simple.

Something + Non-Acceptance = Negative Emotion
Something + Acceptance = Positive Emotion

So, it is NOT 'something' or 'someone' that makes us feel positive or negative, but it is our 'acceptance' or 'non-acceptance' of something or someone, that makes us feel positive or negative.

It isn’t the world, but the quality of our response to the world - acceptance or non-acceptance - that determines the quality of our emotions.

Next time you feel disturbed with a negative emotion, instead of asking who or what is disturbing you, examine who or what you are resisting or not accepting that is causing this disturbance. Replace resistance or non-acceptance with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a positive one. Emotional management begins when we stop blaming that 'something' or 'someone' and start taking the responsibility to respond to life with 'acceptance'.

8 comments:

firefly said...

but accepting isnt this easy. agree with you btw.

Harman said...

SOMETIME situation is exactly opposite ... with no fault its like somebody blaming you for their own fault ..I m surprised how clever people are ,,but its to control for few minutes and situation calms down.

Meera Sundararajan said...

Thanks that was very inspiring. If only all of us could deal effectively with negative emotions the world would be a much better place to live in.

Jack said...

FIREFLY :

I know it is not easy but it is not impossible also. One should make efforts. Take care



HARMAN :

You are absolutely right. It is self control which counts in such situations and that can save many a ugly consequences. Take care


MEERA :

Surely it would be heavenly but it is not easy to control negative emotions. At the same time one should not give up as it is not impossible also. Take care

PS : I have replied to your views on my post about love gone wrong.

rama said...

It is very true, and I agree with you completely.

Jack said...

RAMA :

Welcome to my space. Thanks for your supportive views. I will visit you a s a p. Take care

Amrita Tanmay said...

वाह! कितना सुन्दर संयोजन और प्रवाह है..बहुत ही अच्छी लगी..

Jack said...

Amrita,

AAPIE SARAAHNA KAA BAHUT DHANYAAVAAD.

Take care