Tuesday, November 20, 2012


Today 41 years ago we got married. This morning when I got up she was already in the kitchen preparing tea. I was searching for words to wish her but was finding it little difficult. Then suddenly without any effort words just came out of my mouth. I told her “ Thanks a lot for being with me all these years.”

This set me on memories of our journey till now. It is not that we did not have our differences. We have had many and also have had numerous arguments or fights you may say. We have also been on KUTTI ( not on speaking terms ) many a times which lasted from half an hour to may be a day.  Or speaking in mono syllable for some time.   I am not qualified to say much on relationships except from my experience. It is certain that for any relationship to be healthy there are some basic principles. I always list the following :

a)     Mutual Respect
b)    Mutual Trust
c)     Two Way Open & Logical Communication 
d)    Accepting other as he or she is without trying to change him or her but making efforts to overcome own weak points.

Then it struck me that all this is possible if we have WILLINGNESS TO BE WITH EACH OTHER.  So now I can say that for STRONG & HEALTHY relationship FIRM GROUND is WILLINGNESS TO BE WITH EACH OTHER and then SOLID FOUNDATIONS can be laid by the basic principles listed above. 


veera said...

excellent,.beautifully written.you are a GENIUS.

Shilpa Garg said...

Happy 41st wedding Anniversary to you and Madam! Best wishes! :)

Meera Sundararajan said...

Happy 41st anniversary Uncle. Obviously you and your wife are really lucky to be a made for each other couple. But as you say, every marriage requires work and effort to be kept happy. Love and happiness do not just happen- we make it happen with our actions!

firefly said...

Happy Anniversary Jack =) many many happy returns of the day.
its been such a long time you havent visited the blog. hope you'll drop by =)

firefly said...

Happy Anniversary Jack =) many many happy returns of the day.
its been such a long time you havent visited the blog. hope you'll drop by =)

Revacious said...

Happy Anniversary Jack!! Nice to read something so positive in a long time :)

Gayu said...

Wish you many more years of togetherness Uncle.

God bless you both!! I completely agree with you. One needs to be willing to be together, or else the fundas or secrets of happy marriage
won't work.

What's special today?? Romantic date???

Convey my wishes to aunty.Keep inspiring us with such posts:)

Take care

sulagna ™ said...

Jack uncle wishing you and aunty a beautiful life ahead...41 years is like an epic..its an entire lifetime of being there for eachother through times rough and happy..lots and lots of love to you both and a special hug for aunty :)

you guys are an inspiration..sending you mine G's and Keyas hugs !

Enchantress said...

wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww congratz to u both :)) makes me soooooooooooo sooooooooooooooo happieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

i just made my mom read this post n she too sayd god bless

Punam said...

Dear Uncle Jack, wishing you and your wife a very very Happy 41st Anniversary. :) And your wise words are like gems - I agree with your thought that there should be the willingness to be with each other - that is where everything else comes from. :)
Take care..
I hope u had a great day.

Kshipra said...

Wow, Happy Anniversary Unccle!
41 years is a long time. And that is something even people in our age of speedy-relationships look for, solidarity! :)
Many returns of the day.

Amrita said...

That is sooooooo sweet uncle being Kutti :) hehehe
I am very late here, but wish you and maam mannnnnnnnnnny manyyyyy more happy years of togetherness! Touchwood!

Raajii said...

Congratulations on a successful relationship - that's a beautiful thing.

But what about love? Don't you think that if you have love in the heart, most of the other things fall into place?

Shreya said...

Happy 41st Anniversary. God bless :)

Sonshu said...

Wonderfully written, and congratulations Jack Uncle. I think it's hard to find people like this today. :D


Jack said...


Thanks for your wishes. I am not at all a genius but simple person who loves to follow own conscience and not harm anyone. Take care


Thanks a lot for your kind wishes. Take care


Thanks for your heartwarming wishes. You are absolutely right that it needs effort from both to make marriage work. Why marriage, any relationship for that matter. It is like a flower bed which needs to be tended everyday. Take care


Thanks for your lovely wishes. I have visited you and told the reasons for delay. Take care


Thanks for you wishes. Do I write negative? Take care

Jack said...


Thanks for such affectionate wishes. Willingness to be together is the main requirement for happy & healthy relationship. We spent time peacefully at home in each other's company. Take care


I am totally floored by such loving wishes. Please give a big hug full of love to Keya from our side and say big thanks to her. Take care


Awwwwwwwww, I am so happy to see you here and with such good wishes. Please thank your mom also for her wishes. Take care


We are moved by such affectionate wishes. Unless one is willing how can he or she bear togetherness for any time? We enjoyed each others company at home. Take care


Thanks for your wishes. Yes, one must look for long term happiness togetherness. Take care

Jack said...


Thanks for such loving wishes. You are not late as it is not time but feelings which count. Take care


Welcome to my space. Thanks for your kind wishes. Hope to have your valuable views in future also. Unless on loves partner how would he or she be willing to be together? So love has to be there to start with, isn't it? Take care


Thanks for your kind wishes. We too pray for God's blessings. Take care


Thanks for your wishes. It is not hard to have happiness if one is willing to make an effort. Take care

rama said...

It was really good to read this blog. I can understand, how difficult it is for many men and also women to express their true feelings through words.
It goes to show, it doesn't matter if it is said or not,all that matters is that, there is plenty of love for each other despite the differences and arguments.
Happy Anniversary!!!

RiĆ  said...

Belated Happy Anniversary!! :)

Veena said...

Wow... Happy Anniversary ... hope u both have a wonderful and even more cherish-able years ahead...

Jack said...


You are right that to express love words are not needed but being there counts much more inspite of all disagreements. Thanks for your wishes. Take care


Thanks for the wishes. It is the sincerity of wishes which is more important than the time those are conveyed. Take care


Thanks a lot for such affectionate wishes. Take care

Oldfox004 said...

41 years!!!!

Congratulations Uncle and do send my wishes to aunty too:)

it will be a year and a half this december for me and my husband..I can't imagine being together 41 years with him:)

Ann said...

Wish you a very happy belated anniversary.. Sorry i missed the post on that day.. I wish you guys be together for many more years to come.. Love,


Jack said...


Thanks for your wishes. Don't you worry, time flies and if you follow what I suggested you will not only be together for 41 years but many many more than that. Take care


Thanks a lot for your kind wishes. It in not being late which matters but sincere wishes which do. Take care

Saro said...

A happy delayed anniversary Jack, I wish some day I write a post like this. And I agree, it all boils down to wanting to be with each other. We can get anything we want in life, we just have to want it enough.

Jack said...


I am so glad that you took time to visit. With your positive attitude you will not only reach this stage but even much more than this.

Take care

Tranquility Speaks said...

I wish you and your better half another 80 years of happiness and togetherness :-)