HAPPY NEW YEAR

May God be kind to all.

INTER-FAITH MARRIAGES

There has been a lot in news recently about two issues - first being inter-faith marriages and second being so called BABAs..

What I feel is that we should encourage inter-faith marriages as that is the best way to integrate the society but if one coerces his or her partner to change faith for marriage then it is a BIG NO NO. The children can enjoys both faiths and choose one they wish to follow once they are adults. They should not be forced by anyone to follow own faith.

If one has denounced the worldly things and become a BABA then how come they still live in luxury and as seen by a few examples satisfy their sexual urges by forcing their female disciples? Most of them do not allow outsiders visiting their ASHRAMs. I feel all ASHRAMs of any BABA should be accessible to anyone at any time, specially police.

MERRY X-MAS

MOLESTATION

Lately there has been a lot in news about a well known girl who spoke about having been physically molested by a person sitting behind her while in a flight. I have two points on this issue.

First being that let us accept what that man says and is supported by his wife. He stated that he is a frequent flier and had gone off to sleep soon after the flight took off. He states that did not do anything inappropriate. He had placed his foot on the armrest of the seat where that girl was sitting. I would like to ask him if it is proper for anyone to place his foot on the armrest of seat in front. Would he accept the passenger sitting behind placing his foot on his armrest? Is this kind of act acceptable in flight? It was a deliberate act of molestation.

Secondly, would the media have given same coverage to this incident had the girl been a common citizen?     

HAPPY DIWALI

MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL WITH JOYS AND PEACE.   HAPPY DIWALI

WHY THIS DISRESPECT?

Medals are earned by Defence Personnel  by hard work and serving in combat areas. The same thing applies to Police organisations. Why do people / actors show disrespect to this by wearing medals / ribbons as fashion accessories in photographs / television shows when they are not acting as servicemen?

DIET & WEIGHT

I have been given link by my niece  which deals with weight and diet. I thought this could be of help to some of you here, so I am sharing the link www.dietspotlight.com. Hope you find it useful.         

MY FEELINGS

I am at a loss of words to say what I feel about happenings in Panchkula and Haryana in the past couple of day. It is either just failure of those in power or blind greediness for votes by the political parties. I do not think it is just a failure, as any one with little common sense would have felt that situation can turn violent as it was expected that so called Baba would be found guilty.  Thus it was a deliberate failure.

I do not wish to say anything about so called BABA as there are plenty more like him claiming to be godmen and indulging in activities which any sane good person will never. I feel sad about those families who have lost near & dear ones. How are those in power going to explain the loss suffered by them? 

BIOPICS

I somehow feel that biopics of living persons should not be made. What do you all say?

TWO THOUGHTS

Old age seems to be definitely catching up with me, it seems as while writing previous post I was trying hard to remember two more points which had been in my mind but to no avail. So here I am again.

One needs to have contacts at right places even if one is famous to get away with anything. This came in my mind due to episode of Yamuna plains.

You can not instill patriotism into anyone by placing objects of war, like Tanks or Artillery Guns at prominent places. Patriotism comes only through environments in which one grows up.

PRE-MATURE RETIREMENT

I read in newspaper some time ago that government is mulling of making pre-mature retirement rules for Defence personnel vis-a-vis OROP. It was stated that those who seek PMR on being superseded will need to serve for another 3 years after being passed over for promotion to be entitled for pension while seeking PMR. I am surprised at this thinking. Any sane person will realise that those who seek PMR after being superseded will have no interest in their work. So the government will be saddled with frustrated lot who will be spoke in the running of administration at desired level. Those who continue at their own, will work even harder as they will be looking forward to promotion.

I think the government should let go those with pension as applicable, who wish to do so after being passed over for promotion.

What is your say?

INCOME TAX RELIEF

A few days ago I read in the newspaper that there has been an appeal to government to reduce income tax i r o single working girls. It was suggested that lower rates may be made applicable to them.

This set me thinking that even pensioners also need this relief. On retirement income of a pensioner becomes 50% of what his salary was. Even dearness allowance which he was getting becomes less as it is calculated on basic pay / pension. Family commitments like marriages of daughters/sons, taking care of old parents, other such social obligations etc etc of a pensioner do not become less. Thus I feel that income tax on pension should be 50% of what it is on salary while in service, if not waved off completely.  

GOOD AND REALISTIC ARTICLE

A friend of mine shared this by mail and I just could not resist temptation to share it with you all. Please do spare some time to read it and share your views :

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THE BACK NINE

I FIRST STARTED READING THIS EMAIL & WAS READING FAST UNTIL I REACHED THE THIRD SENTENCE. I STOPPED AND STARTED OVER READING SLOWER AND THINKING ABOUT EVERY WORD. THIS EMAIL IS VERY THOUGHT PROVOKING. MAKES YOU STOP AND THINK.   READ SLOWLY!

AND THEN IT IS WINTER

You know ... time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.

But, here it is... the back nine of my life and it catches me by surprise... How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go?

I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that I was only on the first hole and the back nine was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

But, here it is...my friends are retired and getting gray...they move slower and I seean older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me...but, I see the great change....Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant...but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we'd become.

Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore... it's mandatory! Cause if I don't on my own free will... I just fall asleep where I sit!

And so...now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!! But, at least I know, that though I’m on the back nine, and I'm not sure how long it will last...this I know, that when it's over on this earth...it's over. A new adventure will begin!   Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn't done...things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I'm happy to have done. It's all in a lifetime.

So, if you're not on the back nine yet...let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don't put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether you’re on the back nine or not!

You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life....so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember...and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!

"Life" is a gift to you.   The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one. LIVE IT WELL!  ENJOY TODAY! DO SOMETHING FUN!  BE HAPPY ! HAVE A GREAT DAY Remember "It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.  LIVE HAPPY IN 2017!

LASTLY, CONSIDER THIS:

~Your kids are becoming you......but your grandchildren are perfect!

~Going out is good.. Coming home is better!

~You forget names.... But it's OK because some people forgot they even knew you!!!

~You realize you're never going to be really good at anything like golf.

~The things you used to care to do, you aren't as interested in anymore, but you really don't care that you aren't as interested.

~You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV 'ON' than in bed. It's called "pre-sleep".

~You miss the days when everything worked with just an "ON" and "OFF" switch..

~You tend to use more 4 letter words ... "what?"..."when?"... ???

~You notice everything they sell in stores is "sleeveless"?!!!

~What used to be freckles are now liver spots.

~Everybody whispers.

~You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet.... 2 of which you will never wear.

~~~But Old is good in some things: Old Songs, Old movies, and best of all,   OLD FRIENDS!!

Stay well, "OLD FRIEND!" Send this on to other "Old Friends!" and let them laugh in AGREEMENT!!! It's Not What You Gather, But What You Scatter That Tells What Kind Of Life You Have Lived.

TODAY IS THE OLDEST YOU'VE EVER BEEN; YET THE YOUNGEST YOU'LL EVER BE, SO ENJOY THIS DAY WHILE IT LASTS

“ Do Not Regret Growing Older.

It is a Privilege Denied to Many.”

WHAT DO YOU SAY?

For the last few days I have been wanting to share with you all what I think about a couple of things which had been dominating news.

First is, what kind of elected representatives do we have? This came to my mind after watching MLAs throwing paper missiles on Hon'bel Governor when he was addressing their session. Thereafter they had audacity to say that they were not throwing paper at him but giving their applications. Applications for what? And is that the way to give applications,if those were applications? They think the public is without brains and will swallow whatever they say. PITY. This also proves a famous saying " We get the government we deserve." So true. We only elected those leaders to work for our good cause.

Second is, so many well known persons as well as a couple of political parties are raising voice against Army for their actions in Kashmir against stone pelters and against Army Chief for saying that he can not ask his personnel to stand mute to get hurt. I will not say anything on this issue except that such persons should be taken without any publicity and made to wear forces uniform to be with the them to face stone pelters. I am all for HUMAN RIGHTs but don't we feel that with that comes HUMAN RESPONSIBILITY? We have freedom to choose our profession, can I choose to be a spy for enemy country and claim it as my Human Right? Can I damage public property for protesting whatever cause be it and shout against such acts if my own property is damaged by protesters?

Food for thought. 

ANOTHER ONE

I read in newspaper that a VC of newly formed university has put a mattress in his office and is working while sitting on that. REASON : He has not been provided with a chair of his liking which cost Rs 60,000.

I wonder what students of that university will be in future after seeing this example! 

DO YOU AGREE?

I am all for upliftment of economically backward class without any caste distinction. I believe that if you cover that segment of society, it will automatically have persons of present BC & OBC in majority. But it is really heartbreaking when a very well educated and very well placed person takes shelter of DALIT card to hide his mistakes or inadequacies.

I also support those who are activists of protection of human rights but when they take side of those who indulge in violence against law enforcement agencies, I would like to ask them what about similar rights of personnel of those agencies. Are they supposed to stand and face stones or whatever is thrown at them with smile? Such activists should be taken to actual theater where such activity takes place and made to accompany personnel of law enforcement agencies to face the violent mobs.

WHY?

I normally do not write anything which may touch upon any religious activity. I am making exception to that self imposed rule as I feel I must bring out what is in my mind.

We have been reading a lot about Triple Talaq in newspapers. As per religious heads it is as authorised in HOLY QUARAN.  I have some questions :

" Why is the benefit of advancement being given only to males?"
" Is saying Triple Talaq by post or telegram or telephone or on Whats Up or on Skype as per the Holy Book?"
" Does not the Holy Book say that there must be enough gap for reconciliation between each pronouncement? "

HOW RIGHT FAMOUS SAYING ARE!

How true is the famous saying " Put your brain in gear before you open your mouth"! I am saying this after coming to know what some of famous persons said.

First one is a famous star who said " I a doctor's child becomes a doctor or a lawyer's child becomes a lawyer, then no one calls it nepotism but if child of a star enters into same profession it is called so" or words to that effect as reported in newspapers. We may excuse that person's ignorance that to become a doctor one needs to clear entrance examination just to get into Medical college and then sweat out for next 4 to 5 years studying hard to clear examinations to become DOCTOR,  even to become a lawyer one needs to get into professional course and clear examinations while to become an actor there is not such criteria.

Second is not only a well educated person but well experienced also who said something which hurt religious sentiments of majority of persons. Later he tried to clarify and when it did not go well, he appologised. 

There are many such incidents which support the famous saying which I referred to.

ASHAMED

About the behaviour of our Hon'ble MP recently, I will only say that it makes me feel so ASHAMED that we have this kind of person as our country's LAWMAKER.

FREEDOM OF SPEECH

Lately there has been a lot in the news about young lady, Ms Gurmehar Kaur, who is championing the cause - Freedom of Speech. It is disturbing as it has been given political twist.

Well, Gurmehar Bete, I am with you as I am sure that as an intelligent girl you do know that this RIGHT comes with great RESPONSIBILITY. I do not think you will tolerate anyone using derogatory language against anyone, more so against our Martyrs, Religious beliefs – Gods / Goddesses/ Sikh Gurus  OR Exhorting people to divide our nation on communal / religious / regional basis  OR  Raising slogans condemning our nation and praising other nations, specially with whom we have perpetual tiff  OR  Asking people to indulge in acts of violence  OR inviting foreign powers to invade and take over our nation. This list of acts is endless when we love, respect and wish to protect our nation.

I will be with you as I am sure you will always take patriotic and logical stand. Take care of yourself.

Hope you do get to read it with someone forwarding it to you or giving you my link.

SAD HAPPENINGS

Before I say anything else, let me say SORRY for being absent from here for such a long time. No excuses. Inspite of wanting to write it was just pure NOT TODAY, TOMORROW which kept me away.

Few things have been weighing on my mind. Let me share a couple of those with you.

First is how come police had not been able to find culprits who extinguished so many lives just due to rash & fast driving, at times even after having had one too many. This has come in my mind as there had been a spate of such accidents lately. I feel that owners of vehicle involved should be put in isolated cell for a couple of days and then told that either they tell who was driving or they will continue to be in same state till they come clean. Of course it goes without saying that POLICE has to be clean first. I just would like to know would they have been so easy going if victim was son / daughter of some police officer.

Second is stalkers attacking their victims on being told to lay off. Why don't we take complaints of stalking seriously? Or why don't we educate our sons to have respect for girls? Isn't it our moral duty to bring up our children to have respectable and SAFE society?

Do think it over.