Saturday, April 13, 2013

WHY BEHAVE SELFISHLY ?


I had told you all about a friend who missed his grandson and the reasons for that in my posts Why We Complicate Life? (14 July, 2012) and Does One Think Rationally When Depressed? (10 January, 2013). I am so sad to inform that he is no more.
As I started feeling better so I took over my duties of taking care of our dog. I took her for walks, though short as per my own condition. Also I started doing other work like going to market or bank etc but at slow pace so as not to tire myself. I met him a few times. When I did not see him for more than a couple of days, I called up on his mobile number. It was answered by his wife who told me that he was hospitalized.

 I went to see him yesterday. Doctors had told that he had had mild heart attack and was not responding well to treatment for reasons unknown. When I met him he was half awake and recognized me. His eyes were most of the times fixed at the door as if expecting someone. Though he did not speak much but his eyes said all. He was waiting for his grandson to come who had not as his mother did not visit him. I consoled him asking him to get well soon so we could see what could be done to resolve the issue. Later in the evening I learnt that he had passed away in sleep.

Today I went to their house to pay my condolences. His daughter in law was there wailing loudly. Her husband and m i l were unhappy about her behavior but seemed to have kept quiet due to so many people being there. As we were moving out to go for cremation, I crossed her. She was wailing loudly but I could hardly see any tears. I could not resist telling her as to what is the use of wailing now when she did not care for his happiness while he was alive.     

11 comments:

Tongue-fu Lady said...

I am sorry your friend passed away with so much grief. My condolences.

Oldfox004 said...

This is so sad Uncle...the least your friend would have wished was to at least see his grandson once...will the DIL ever understand this?

On another note, its good to know u have started going out again...take care:)

Jyoti Mishra said...

We think we have all the time in the world and we can undo all our mistakes in time.. we keep delaying it for some reasons..

and at the end time is what we are always short of..
and when we cry over split milk..
it's never enough

The Gardener said...

Good to 'see' you back.

Your post reminded me about the passing away of one of my closest friends about 2 months ago. He battled with cancer for 4 months and lost.

The thought about your friend frequently looking at the door wishing to see his dear grandson is a poignant narrative.

ambikasinghsmusings said...

May your friend's soul rip. His DIL will have to pay for her sins. I am deeply saddened by her ways of keeping her son away from your friend.

Amrita said...

Seriously! feel bad sayin it.. but i feel one should be careful of ones actions.. for life does come full circle :(

Jack said...

T-f L :

It is indeed very sad. How I wish nobody faces this kind of situation ever! Take care


OLDFOX :

How I wish that he had met his grandson before his passing away! I really feel very sad. Take care


JYOTI :

Sadly we do not realize what our action can lead to. Take care


GARDENER :

Thanks. I feel sad about your friend. I can still see his eyes riveted on the door expecting his grandson to come. Take care


AMBIKA :

So I pray. May he have peace now. I do not know if she even now realizes her folly. Take care


AMRITA :

Some persons do not apply their mind to understand what their actions may result in. She is one of those and under influence of her parents in totality. Take care

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school gal said...

but uncle sometimes wen u give all ur love to the person u love.. they take it for granted and treat u like shit...
although i'm referring to a different type of scenario...

i am sorry to hear about ur friend...

school gal said...

but uncle sometimes wen u give all ur love to the person u love.. they take it for granted and treat u like shit...
although i'm referring to a different type of scenario...

i am sorry to hear about ur friend...

Jack said...

S G :

I well understand that this is what happens when you give your all to someone. Take care