Friday, March 27, 2009

Love Story

While commenting on post of a young lady I had said that one needs to be little careful when falling in love. She had retorted that it is not possible to plan to fall in love. I agreed to that whole heartedly as I too had attained that euphoric feeling without any warning. Here I am going to share that with you all. But before I go any further let me clarify that love is of many hues. I am sure you all would know that – like mother’s love for children, love of parents, sister’s love etc etc. However what I am going to say is about love between two unrelated persons as a result of cupid’s actions, or about Mohabbat or Ishq.

First time when I fell in love I was all of 5 years old having just attained status of school going. It was in Pathankot. She was sikh girl with snowwhite complexion, chiseled sharp features, long black hair, dark brown eyes which invited you to lose yourself in them and a voice which was sweet music to the ears like honey is to tongue. My day was not complete till I met her. Luckily she was staying near our house. She too showed lots of happiness whenever I visited her. She showed her love in many ways like sharing sweets or some such goodies. Whenever someone asked me who would I marry when I grow up I named her without any hesitation. I used to get annoyed when they laughed thinking so what if she was eighteen years old. Then my father go transferred from there and new place, new faces, new classmates combined together to make me forget my first love.

I was in second standard when I went head over heals again. She was my classmate, good looking, sturdy but main thing was that she class monitor and used to take care of me whenever I was in trouble. All classmates were scared of her. Over a time I started liking her which turned into love without realization. I was stunned when during recess I overheard her telling someone why she likes me, it was for sharing half of my tiffin as my mother used to give me some delicious stuff. I was so angry I pushed her to ground and put lots of black Indian ink which we used to carry for writing on the wooden slate. It is a separate story how I was hauled up to Principal’s office post recess and what transpired there. However I was let off lightly with a long moral lecture on respecting girls and that is still etched as fresh on my mind.

As I grew up I got more involved in hockey and other games. I joined NCC as well as St Johns Ambulance First Aid team. I by then had established myself as a good orator in declamation contests etc. It was during one of such state level competitive trips of First Aid Teams that I saw a girl during camp fire on the last day. Her beautiful face haunted me for years though I never spoke to her or met her again. This you may call love at first sight one sided, of course.

Then after higher secondary I went off to NDA and the life was hectic with no time for anything other than rigorous training both academics & outdoors. Became an officer in IAF and got engrossed with making my mark. Had some friendships but nothing to term as love. Parents selected a girl , got engaged and pre-marriage on meeting her a few time fell in love with her simplicity and sweet nature. I have already confessed in one of my earlier posts that she is the one who behind my success. We had got married in Nov 1971 when Bhutto was talking of thousand years war and I did not want to remain single for so long. That war was over in about a fortnight but our love war still continues. Hope it carries on. I live a happy life of father of two and grandfather of three but God has own ways.

Just about a month ago on a Sunday afternoon I was sitting outside in the little space between footpath and our flat separated by small hedge basking in the sun and sipping a glass of beer when I saw her. She appeared out of nowhere crossing the road toward small market on the other side of road. Her graceful strides, sway of her hips and head held high made me miss a couple of heartbeats even at the age closer to 64 than teenage. What a beauty created by God at leisure! Luckily no one was around including my two close companions whom I adore and who’s photographs I have shown in an earlier post. Though I am a hardened dog lover but this graceful feline female robbed my heart in toto. I never saw her again but do yearn to see her again.

Well, that is the story of my love episodes. And all unplanned.

PS : And before I forget I do love all of you my friends in this space who have made my life so meaningful to share my experiences and mete out unwanted advice at times. Thanks a lot.


Rinkal said...

hiiiiiiii i m in 7 std and i liked your blog .thanks for reading my blog i will always read your blog
keep it up. i m smaller than u i thinkso please give advice to my blog

Jack said...


Thanks for visiting me. I am much much older than you. It will give me a lot of happiness if I can be of any help or guidance to you. Kindly feel free to ask whatever you wish to. You may write to me on my e-mail if you so wish.

Take care

nups said...

hey Jack
nicely said... love is an enigma people have written volumes ...Mirza Galib and his shayari in fact have u heard of Kabir's doha... i knw the last line well "dhai akhar prem ka pade to pandit hoi"
it means tat u may read volumes and get degres but if u dono wat love is all abt u r truly a looser...
so guess ur love stories have proved one thng to u .. tat u have tasted success :) in the matter of heart and i can peacefuly say tat so have i .. finally ;)
but i knw real test of love is yet to come.. patience n lotsa patience is the key word :)

Keshi said...
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Keshi said...

beautifully expressed Jack!

Love is such a vast emotion it's never too easy to define or describe it. There's all kinds of love, with all kinds of magnitude and depth.

I recently found a new kind of Love....that is to love those who hate me too :) Cos I see alot of ppl love only the ones who love them in return.

Jack said...


Love is something which is beyond words. It is feeling of ultimate happiness. And it is in many ways. When we talk of love we only think of Ishq or Mohabbat. What feelings does a mother get when she hugs her child or grandparents when they see the pranks of grandchildren? That too is love. The list is vast. However love between two unrelated persons is also love and those who feel it are lucky. After marriage, even in case of love marriage, both partners have to make efforts to keep their love alive. If you wish we may discuss it further.

Take care.


You have summed it up so nicely. If you can love those who hate you, you have risen above the selfish nature. This gives you a different kind of peace of mind. Keep it up. Take care

Rinkal said...

hii whatis ur e mail address

Jack said...


You can write to me at


Once we are in touch, I will let you know my name etc.

Take care

Keshi said...

yeah..and rem I wrote a very angry post recently, before I left? Now it's deleted. but after my break, I found a new side to I talk to that same person with a renewed outlook..I dun even dislike that person anymore..its amazing!


Dipti said...

really enjoyed reading this post. i am a fan of LOVE and anyone in love. i love seeing couples around and i'm full of romance.. so obviously the title of the post made me read it an i'm glad i did :)

soooo you were just 5 when you fell in love and you are doing it TILL DATE!!! lol hmm, hope you see her again

its cute when even my dad looks at girls and mum n me make fun of him. then he laughs along

Jack said...


Thanks for the pleasant surprise. Yes, love is a feeling beyond words whichever form it may be. I wish you a very very happy life full of love. That feline female was a cat and stray to top it. I do not know if I will ever set my eyes on her. LOL.

If you can please do try to read my other posts too and if possible visit my other space at o3 and stated in my profile.

How are you keeping now? Can you post snap of Chickey, hope I got the name correct. You can see my pawed companions here in the post under the same name.

Take care

Dipti said...

Hey i am better now, saw a lady doc today, seemed good.. taking medicines for 2 weeks, let's see.

i will put up chicky's snap tomorrow, yeah you got the spellings right... it can be pronounced anyway! the actual name is Chicklets Malhotra and nicknames don't have any particular spelling.. so chicky, chickey, chickiii, chicku.. anything will do! we had a cute birthday ceremony hehe.

yeah will read the other posts too..definitely

gotta go

Jack said...


Seen Chicky's photographs. Cute. Do not neglect your health.

Take care

Vandita said...

That by far was the cutest text scrapbook I have flipped through...
just so sweet...
I hope your love war with your wife goes on forever :)
Super post

PS: Am i forgiven?