tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post1028994069133120462..comments2023-12-10T04:35:43.736-08:00Comments on Share Thoughts & Experiences: HAPPY AND TENSION FREE LIFEJackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15896075408610203350noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-55207491835681121282009-10-01T10:17:02.819-07:002009-10-01T10:17:02.819-07:00PAVI :
It is nice discussing this with you. It i...PAVI : <br /><br />It is nice discussing this with you. It is not only biological difference but even differences in outlook and emotions too. Under the same circumstances men and women will look at it in different ways. And customes set over the centuaries can not be changed overnight. The changes are taking place and it is evident in many ways. What I saw during my grandparents time, I have changed those customs which I felt needed to be. It is happening in urban areas more than rural. I am sure you will find this divide even in advanced nations too. Religion too plays a major role in bringing about changes. Hope that we do see some positive side soon, I wish to see in my life time at least.<br /><br />Take careJackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15896075408610203350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-2539255670830555222009-09-29T07:06:34.995-07:002009-09-29T07:06:34.995-07:00Jack
Sorry. I take so long to respond each time. ...Jack<br /><br />Sorry. I take so long to respond each time. I have been very busy work-wise and social-life wise n hvnt had much time to spend on long responses. Wanted to respond tot his when I have enough time to do justice to it. Here goes :<br /><br />Well, I did read ur comment completely jack . u said “It is God who created the difference and made female specie of almost every living being on the receiving end” and then you went on to say that preachers heightened the difference.. U did not indicate that you were talking abt biological difference when it came to God. Also..ur statement says that God made the female species be at the receiving end…n that I disagreed with.<br /><br />Jack like I said before, I very well know that u are all for men n women being equal. I realize ur just stating what is practiced at large by society.<br /><br />Well..im just taking a step ahead and saying.. NO we don’t have to conform to the norms of the society. If the society’s practices are wrong and unfair..some generation has to put their foot down and not behave according to the norm. n the sooner we do it..the easier it is going to be and better too!It will be very hard to defy wat everyone thinks is “norm”..but it has GOT TO BE DONE! It has to begin sumplace. N why can’t that beginning be each one of us?<br /><br />I was not suggesting that old parents stay in old age homes. Where they should stay is a different topic..n mabbe a debate for another day n time.<br /><br />old parents if they decide to stay with children..should be able to stay with the son or daughter..there should be no caveat of if there is no son only then will they stay with daughter. Its high time we change these stupid norms that have no logic behind them.Pavi!!!!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10798909986381885842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-63771135522078481662009-09-25T04:28:01.323-07:002009-09-25T04:28:01.323-07:00Nahl,
It depends on what the issue is or what the...Nahl,<br /><br />It depends on what the issue is or what the difference of opinion has arisen. Instead of sulking or retaliating angerily it would be better to discuss logically explaining your point of view and listening with open mind to other's too. You are welcome to discuss any particular issue if you wish to at my mail id.<br /><br />Take careJackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15896075408610203350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-81471918090153842202009-09-22T12:49:48.143-07:002009-09-22T12:49:48.143-07:00Wow, I love this post! So very helpful!
When you s...Wow, I love this post! So very helpful!<br />When you say "talk it out", could you please explain how? I'm not too good when it comes to commuication.Honey Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17895091186649302554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-70274572220885551802009-09-17T07:58:19.070-07:002009-09-17T07:58:19.070-07:00PAVI :
So nice of you to speak frankly. It is re...PAVI : <br /><br />So nice of you to speak frankly. It is refreshing. But I feel you have not read my reply earlier fully. I had clearly said that after what God made biological difference it is society and preachers took over. Please read it once again. <br /><br />Now coming to what you say. I have not said that women should only make HOME. I have stated facts that it is women who are the MAIN PILLAR of a family and so of HOME too. <br /><br />Certain conventions are formed by any society over a period and those are followed. I do agree that women should not be put at disadvantage but given equal status. Even in animals you will find some set trends.<br /><br />Parents of both boys or girls grow old equally and have right to stay with either but as per society norms they prefer to be with boys. If some do not have son then it is girl with whom they will spend their twlight years. Unless you wish that all old parents be put in old age homes disregarding all they had gone through to bring up their offsprings. <br /><br />If you have read my Equality at work place you will see that I categorically say that all have to be treated equally and should behave equally too. <br /><br />Hope to hear from you.<br /><br />Take careJackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15896075408610203350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-55328477459501802192009-09-16T12:47:59.337-07:002009-09-16T12:47:59.337-07:00Firstly.. since apologies for much delayed reply. ...Firstly.. since apologies for much delayed reply. Was held up with too many other things…now for the response<br /><br />Ahaah! Very convenient to blame God for everything no? Really was it God who decided that women should leave the home n women should adjust to the husband’s family n forget her parents after marrg, n pay dowry to get married n jump into the fire on her husband’s death all that nonsense jack? Really ?God?! God created man n women…how is a big discussion..but he didn’t play any role in making anyone be at the receiving end okay?! If at all..he gave women the strength of bearing babies n so made her more deserving of care n respect. But that’s a discussion I don’t want to get into..<br /> <br />It is humans(NOTE: I don’t say men..i say HUMANS)..who brought abt this ridiculous difference. N as far as giving birth, breastfeeding n all goes…it depends on the perspective…some mite see it as a strength , while some others may interpret it as God’s way of making women be at the receiving end! <br /> <br />Who is more involved to bring up a child? MAYBE the woman. But ideally it should be the mother and father. And instead of saying that since in the past generations women have been more involved in bringing up children..it will continue that way, its better men take the responsibility. [which many men already have!]<br /><br />N yes.. some ppl do try to put down women..instead of honoring them for what they are n that’s a pity. Women don’t want to be patronized n nor do they want to be disrespected. They want to be treated like normal humans.<br /><br />Just coz in the past..a woman has made a home , n the house has stopped functioning when a woman falls sick..it doesn’t mean that that shld continue into the future. We MUST get out of that mindset n ask mean to be equally responsible in contributing to the home in all ways.<br /><br />My intention of questioning that…is that a guy ALSO moves into a new envt..he also has to win over the love n faith of his inlaws, he must also work on making the girl n her mother not feel like they are separated? Rite?<br /><br />ALL of us have to overcome childhood habits. If the gurl is xpected to behave like an adult..ditto with the guy. He can’t continue being mamma’s boy while the girl is xpected to be adjusting to families, giving birth, making a home out of a house n all that.<br /><br />“Old parents will stay with their children, mostly male”..hec!that is the very thing I want to change. If according to our culture old parents must stay with their children..that has to be true irrespective of gender. Why the hec shld it hold good for only a guy? Do a girl’s parents grow old differently???or have they not gone thru as much struggle to bring her up?!<br /><br />I am glad that u think women are pillars of the society. But really like I sd before..most of us dont want to be patronized..we don’t want so much burden on our shoulders. We want to be treated like regular humans and have equal rights as men.<br /><br />Just ‘coz things have been a certain way for the past so many yrs..we shldnt continue advocating the same. Change has to begin somewhere…n its best if that somewhere is the self..for each person.<br /><br />Thanks for providing the forum for a discussion.Pavi!!!!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10798909986381885842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-29757091781866419302009-09-11T10:17:47.532-07:002009-09-11T10:17:47.532-07:00Good post...
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u r a good guide i tell u...n u...amazing points!!!<br /><br />u r a good guide i tell u...n ur best point is ur urge to share ur experiences n to teach others. u seem to have learnt a lot from life n ur willingness to teach shows off in ur writing!! keep up the good work!!Shruti Narayananhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00319875014367225609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-14739285792610376582009-09-02T07:45:56.479-07:002009-09-02T07:45:56.479-07:00CECILIA :
Welcome to my space. Kindly do read my...CECILIA : <br /><br />Welcome to my space. Kindly do read my older posts too. I would appreciate your views on many of them, particularly on relationships.<br /><br />Take careJackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15896075408610203350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-41467746774188467212009-09-01T01:47:35.256-07:002009-09-01T01:47:35.256-07:00Very Very true..liked this alot..Very Very true..liked this alot..Ceciliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04485379242464336908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-19644336049186051632009-09-01T01:39:08.260-07:002009-09-01T01:39:08.260-07:00Very Very true..liked this alot..Very Very true..liked this alot..Ceciliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04485379242464336908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-51693188936922232182009-08-31T02:36:00.477-07:002009-08-31T02:36:00.477-07:00I am so glad you liked my poem. Your comments real...I am so glad you liked my poem. Your comments really inspire me to write more.<br />Thanks a lot.PhilO♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/02754122680372548153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-26063395535361739842009-08-29T09:38:53.690-07:002009-08-29T09:38:53.690-07:00NUPS :
I agree with you that most of us know wha...NUPS : <br /><br />I agree with you that most of us know what is not right from experience of others but still we try it till we too suffer. Take care<br /><br /><br />MEHREEN : <br /><br />Hope it helps you in your new life. If possible do share what it is going to be. However wish you all the best. Take careJackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15896075408610203350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-11946979962288365072009-08-29T08:38:30.541-07:002009-08-29T08:38:30.541-07:00Hello Jack :)
I don't have anything to add to...Hello Jack :)<br /><br />I don't have anything to add to this, but I will keep them in mind, especially when I'm soon going to start a new life. It's always refreshing to read your blog with simple advices. <br /><br />Thank you :)WarmSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16043469765407793043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-62167873789017851872009-08-28T07:42:03.937-07:002009-08-28T07:42:03.937-07:00hi jack
those r the rules to eternal bliss i would...hi jack<br />those r the rules to eternal bliss i would say... but its after years of experience one realises these virtues..... its like its alws there but till u go thru ur own muck u never realise them ...... take care buddy :)nupshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03170963937095841145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-47816575426674503762009-08-28T06:06:48.970-07:002009-08-28T06:06:48.970-07:00AD,
It will be my honour to have you as regular v...AD,<br /><br />It will be my honour to have you as regular visitor. Take care<br /><br /><br />PAVI : <br /><br />I tried to state facts as they are. It is God who created the difference and made female specie of almost every living being on the receiving end. I will however confine to men and women. After God's work it is our societies and preachers who took over to heighten the difference. May I be little frank on birds & bees? Even in lovemaking who is the one at the receiving end, I mean physically? Who bears all related pains to bear a child? Who is more involved in bringing up the child? Who breastfeeds the child? And instead of honouring strength of a woman to undertake all these we try to pull her down by laying down so many restrictions. I firmly believe that it is woman who makes a house A HOME. If a man falls sick or goes away everything will run almost as per normal in the house but if lady of the house falls sick or goes away the whole routine goes topsy turvy. My intention of saying that a girl has to make more efforts or adapt more after marriage is not for any other reason but to bring out fact that she moves from known environments to practically new unknown ones where she needs to win over one and all with her love and not by trying to create rifts between mother and son. This is not at the cost of her self respect or individuality. However she has to understand the need and overcome her childhood habits. And at the same time it is moral duty of husband's family including him to understand, help and respect her. Her family should be supportive and not advise any wily things. I agree that a lot of youngsters leave home early for studies or even for jobs as well as there are nuclear families but what %age of whole population? I am not talking about USA where the culture is different. Old parents will stay with their children, mainly males, in the twlight years of their lives and that is where she has to understand that one day she too will be in their shoes. All in all I will say that it is a misnomer that women are weaker sex, they are actually pillars of any family or society. OMG, such long reply. Take care<br /><br /><br />TABITHA : <br /><br />Nice to see you. I will check mail after this and reply. Take care<br /><br /><br />FAREED : <br /><br />Welcome to my space. Hope you keep visiting regualrly. My main intention while writing this was that most of the quarrels are unnecessary. If we can relate to each other logically then we can co-exist peacefully, isn't it? Take careJackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15896075408610203350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-34319291675431955852009-08-28T04:52:56.161-07:002009-08-28T04:52:56.161-07:00So, is the author only one to be mindful of ingrai...So, is the author only one to be mindful of ingraining undertones to this post?<br /><br />Let relativism and existentialism be given a chance for once, nay?Fareedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01083486037471471403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-46692748660786192372009-08-28T02:28:25.569-07:002009-08-28T02:28:25.569-07:00Nice Blog Uncle :)
Did u receive my mailNice Blog Uncle :)<br />Did u receive my mailTabithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07157506615576447021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-28417513109314256552009-08-27T13:26:51.573-07:002009-08-27T13:26:51.573-07:00Jack from the li’l that I have read ur blog n ur c...Jack from the li’l that I have read ur blog n ur comments on others’ blogs..i am sure that putting the girl on the receiving end WAS NOT ur intention.<br /><br />Yes like you said in most societies it is the girl who leaves her parental home. But these days the child(girl/guy) mostly, leaves home for studies / work.. years before they are ready for marrg… n after marrg ,many couples live in a nuclear family where-in the husband n wife learn to adapt to each other’s lifestyles.<br /> Why then must we list the girl adapting to a new lifestyle as a way to happiness. <br /><br />Our minds have been conditioned to think in this manner. N unless we break away from it..the struggle towards gender equality will not be a success. The battle will not have been truly fought with such biases still in place even if only in thoughts n words and not in practice. ‘coz when the thought-process is such in our subconscious mind we sumtimes unknowingly tend to put it to practice.<br /><br />I u’stand that ur stressing on it with the interest of the girl’s happiness in mind. But if the only way she can be happy is by adapting, giving-in and conforming to what society expects of her…I wonder if that’s true happiness in the 1st place.Pavi!!!!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10798909986381885842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-17863695380480263642009-08-27T10:52:59.691-07:002009-08-27T10:52:59.691-07:00indeed i will be :)indeed i will be :)Americanising Desihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04089753612782157378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-63408853640029622352009-08-27T09:00:31.118-07:002009-08-27T09:00:31.118-07:00INDRABLOG :
My reply to TS and DIVA must have be...INDRABLOG : <br /><br />My reply to TS and DIVA must have been chasing your view in space. Welcome to my space. Hope to see you often. Please do give your views on my older posts too. I will visit you soon. Take careJackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15896075408610203350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-66882408587691286682009-08-27T08:56:17.198-07:002009-08-27T08:56:17.198-07:00T S :
Welcome to my space. Hope to see you often...T S : <br /><br />Welcome to my space. Hope to see you often. I would appreciate your views on my older posts too, mainly the ones on personal relationships. I will visit you soon. Take care<br /><br /><br />DIVA : <br /><br />Nice to see you back. I am sending one right after this. Take careJackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15896075408610203350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-89567888930092308402009-08-27T08:53:58.762-07:002009-08-27T08:53:58.762-07:00I agree with your views. I also think trying to un...I agree with your views. I also think trying to understand the other person and putting yourself in the place of the other person and thinking how you would react in a similar situation helps.indrabloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12797534131912600541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-80246672294354376942009-08-27T06:49:04.607-07:002009-08-27T06:49:04.607-07:00hey.... thanks for the comments on my space!! made...hey.... thanks for the comments on my space!! made a great difference to me :) <br />and yep, as you said, that is where YOU as a person counts.. its 'your' choice if you wish to talk out the in differences diplomatically or rather sit an whine about it... at the end of the day, its what you make of the situation. YOU make it or break it... not entirely, of course!!! <br /><br />P.S: still waiting for the belated card.... :) email id : diva.life@gmail.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05111800284342214977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3127390194074352877.post-26824870204777080552009-08-27T00:52:17.406-07:002009-08-27T00:52:17.406-07:00I came here from Nups blog. I've seen your com...I came here from Nups blog. I've seen your comments there often and they've always been so profound!<br /><br />In total agreement with your views here! Leaves me with nothing more to add :)Tranquility Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11973619033004372917noreply@blogger.com